Shifting Paradigms, Grieving Differently

So many of us don't know what to do with grief . We often try to think our way out of it, and think that the best thing to do with grief is to avoid it, lock it away in a vault, never to be opened or spoken about again.

We say things to each other like "time heals all wounds", "they wouldn't want you to be sad", "they are in a better place", "look at all the good things in your life".. and while most people are well meaning, these things are harmful to those of us who are grieving.

When someone is struggling, it seems to be common practice to want to make them "feel better", to get them to "move on".. but we need to begin to really consider what our words really mean and the impact they have on the person who is receiving them.

What grieving people need, is space for their grief. When we try to "fix" grief and get rid of pain, we tell grievers that there is no space for their truth here.. and thats not how we play. Grief gets a seat at all of our tables, and together we're going to explore how you can invite grief to have a seat at yours too, so that we can make this world a more loving place.

Before we explore the possibility of being with grief in a new way, let us first revisit what currently gets in the way of our grief.

What Gets in the Way of Grief

1. Outdated social programming and messaging around getting over what hurts.

2. Getting trapped in a narrow definition of grief and what it means to grieve and be human.

3. Continuing on with business as usual.

4. Trying to think the way out.

5. Distraction strategies.

   
   

Read the full post about what gets in the way of grief here.

It's time that we update the outdated messaging and social programming, because what we've been told isn't helpful.

It's time that we expand our understanding of grief and create a relationship with grief, because what we run from only ever gets bigger (trust me, I've tried).

It's time that we shift out of the mind and into the body, because we cannot think our way out of grief, no matter how hard we try (trust me, I tried this too).

And it's time that we re-create a solid foundation to move from, because once everything comes crumbling down, we are left to re-build and find new ways forward.

I dream about a world that knows grief as a foundational skill to human-ing and to doing anything brave in this world (because there is, and always will be grief along the way, even in our biggest and best expansions).

My intention is never to get rid of grief, because grief is not a problem to be solved. Rather, to invite us into a new way of being with grief thatare slow, sustainable, life giving, and regenerative.

Let us explore what I mean by that.

Invitation to Be with Grief in a New Way

01. Slow

Grief invites us to move at the pace of our nervous system—far slower than the demands of modern life. Here, we honour the gentle rhythm of nature rather than the relentless hum of machines or speed of computers. We are not meant to rush or force our way through our pain.

We set the intention to never move faster than the slowest part of us is ready to go. When we allow ourselves to slow down, we collapse time in surprising ways—making space for deep, sustainable healing and growth that is both meaningful and real.

Grief the grief, then the rising.

02. Sustainable

Grief is not something to "get over," but something to move with—like waves in an ocean. Rather than drowning, we learn to float, swim, and come up for air through heart-centered, restorative practices.

This is not about bypassing pain but about metabolizing it in ways that support our capacity to feel, heal, and stay connected to life. Here, we redefine what it means to grieve freely and live fully—honouring the natural cycles of contraction and expansion that shape us.

03. Soulful

Soulful grief keeps us tethered to our inner knowing. It recognizes grief not as a disruption, but as a sacred companion on the path of being human. Grief is the cost of love, of courage, of saying yes to life.

In this space, we honour grief as part of any true expansion—allowing it to deepen our relationship to longing, desire, and purpose. Soulful grieving invites us to live in service to what matters most—your deepest longings, burning desires, and biggest dreams. 

04. Regenerative

When we re-story our relationship to grief, emotion, and embodiment, we reclaim parts of ourselves long buried. Grief becomes compost—rich with potential.

Rather than draining us, this process regenerates our capacity for creativity, connection, and expression. Here, grief is not an ending, but a beginning—a gateway to liberation and aliveness.

05. Life-giving

Contrary to what we’ve been told, grief can lead us deeper into life—not away from it. In descending into the depths, we touch what is most vital: our longings, our truths, our fierce love for what matters most.

To grieve fully is to live fully. This is the paradox and the gift. Aliveness and sorrow are not separate—they are braided together. And through that braid, we find the pulse of what is still possible.

Thank You for Being Here

If you’re here, I’m guessing you already know and feel the presence of grief, and what you need is a space that welcomes ALL of you - Your grief, your pain, your tears, your love, your joy, your wildness, your dreams, and your aliveness. This is it. I'm so glad we've found each other.

>> If you are ready for a new way forward and in need of some support as you step into the wilderness - we invite you to book a free consultation where we will have a chance to connect and explore the path that will be the most supportive for where you are at right now (invitational always, left for you to decide).

>> Or download Being with Grief a soulful and somatic guide for honouring your grief in your own way.

About Us:

Weaving Grief specializes in compassionate grief therapy for individuals navigating loss of any kind - death, breakups, relationship transitions, chronic illness, loss of self, and more. By addressing these profound experiences, Weaving Grief empowers clients to grieve freely and live fully. Through somatic practices and meaningful reflection, we’re here to help you navigate these tender moments and rediscover the fullness of life.

Specific areas of focus: death of a loved one (recent or past), life changing transitions, relationship transitions and break ups, pregnancy loss, grief around family planning, chronic illness, loss of Self, and supporting entrepreneurs through the grief that comes with growth.

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